Saturday, August 22, 2009


Ok readers... I need your advice! Take a minute to figure out how to leave a comment- it can be anonymous- but please include your name so I can thank you! All thoughts are greatly appreciated. Tonight, it took 3 hours of nursing and rocking and bouncing and crying before Kyle caved and took the baby for a car-ride to put him to sleep. He doesn't like the pacifier anymore - so its screaming, with moments of quiet.

What's the best way to put a baby to sleep?
How do you stop the crying?
Could he be sleeping too much during the day?
When is a baby old enough to "cry it out"?

We were so fortunate the first month- he drifted off to sleep very peacefully. I miss those days and want them back!


  1. Anonymous8:28 PM

    I nursed Jennifer (almost 2 years) and found that until she was a few months old, she would get a belly ache and fuss most of the night if I ate ANY chocolate (even 1 choc. chip cookie), ANY onions, garlic, cauliflower, broccoli, or many other spices--I mean like the oil/vinegar dressing they put on a ham and cheese sub. Otherwise, Jenny didn't cry or fuss. I do not subscribe to the belief that young infants can be "spoiled." If they are crying or fussing, they need something or are uncomfortable. You cannot spend TOO MUCH time with him--the more the better. Don't think you need to be firm and let him lay and cry. Baloney. Be prepared for growth spurts. You will think you are not producing enough milk when you may have to feed him about every hour. Hang in there, once your breasts have adjusted to the new volume, his schedule will become more normal until the next growth spurt. Jenny never would take a pacifier. She just spit it out. Personally, I think it shows some character that he can't be fooled that easy. He is sleeping when he needs to sleep. When Jenny was his age she would wake up about 4 pm and be awake all evening until about midnight expecting to "socialize" that whole time. At least she started sleeping until 5 or 5:30 am. Until she was 6 or 7 months old, she fell to sleep usually while nursing. Then I just started putting her into bed and leaving her alone to fall asleep. Do what feels right to you and the baby. You are the only expert on Kaden. Trust him and he will trust you.

    Shirley Kanode

  2. Anonymous1:21 PM

    I am so excited about Kaden and the fact that Kyle has the both of you in his life. Can't help but beam with pride when I see the pictures of your family. Kyle's parents are dear friends of mine ... okay, I use to like Edie but she retired on me. I will miss her tremendously. Advise .... I only work with twelve and thirteen year olds and never had any children of my own. You just listen, talk, sing, and show them limitless love (and behavioral parameters!!!!!!!!) I have to include my teacher talk! Thank you for sharing this with me. God bless all three of you.

  3. Shirley, thanks for that info. I had eaten a lot of beans, so perhaps that bothered him? I also think he is too young to be spoiled, just not sure if/when that will change. he is selective with his desire for a pacifier. It soothes him but he will only suck it sometimes, for a short period of time. he is still falling asleep during/after nursing, if only for a power-nap or for the night. I don't want him to require nursing to fall asleep, so we'll see how things progress.

    To Ms. Teacher, thanks for your warm words. I'm excited to watch him grow up and curious to see how his behavior will develop, and how we all will react!